Anger is Good
Anxiety, Sadness, Fear, Anger, Depression, Stress.
There is a massive Stigma around intense “negative” emotions. Society condemns them as something to suppress. Ridiculed and thought of as something to be eliminated since it’s the source of all evil.
We developed systems, routines, techniques to stay away from these emotions.
But, they are literally the ones who keep you alive.
Without them, you’ll be dead. Like the Pain receptor that says, “Hey do something about this shit, it’s harming us.” It gives you a signal as well as the Motivation to rectify the problem.
I despise motherfuckers who do nothing but talk all day about how bad are they feeling, “I feel bad, I’m depressed, I need a drug to feel good so I can be productive”.
Are you telling me that you need a drug to motivate yourself to get shit done, just because you’re depressed?
I’ll get more Shit done Sober than you on drugs, and I’ll do it with 5 hours of sleep, angry, stress, along with intense pressure all around me. Fucking pussy.
Intense negative emotions are a Gift from God.
And you’re spitting on it because you are one ungrateful stupid idiot.
That’s why you’re just gonna perma fail forever.
Intense negative emotions forces you to Act.
They literally bring out the best in you. A source of unlimited motivation.
Energy cannot be destroyed, it can only be converted from one form to another.
When I’m heartbroken, I’ll be in the gym, training like a fucking animal. Strong as on Ox, more sets, more reps, more powerful than ever.
The Central Intelligence Agency (CIA) only hires people who have a high degree of anxiety.
An anxious person will take every single factor into account when solving a problem. He’ll notice tiny anomalies and obsess over details others miss. Guaranteeing zero loopholes in the Resolution.
Emotions are like having a bucket of water, some days you have lots of it, some days not. But you get to decide where are you gonna pour it. Is it by taking drugs, playing video, jerking off, or use it to propel you forward into where you wanna be. You DECIDE.
How did I come up to this conclusion? Let me tell you about the most difficult time in my life.
the best gift in life comes badly wrapped.
Life in Jail
One of the hardest things in Jail is the Ambiguity. You don’t know when you’re going to get out or if it’s even possible to get out. You ask around and figure out some people spent a year in here, others can’t process a Bail and will probably stay a few years in here. You don’t know anyone, someone might stab you to death, punch you. It’s an extreme version of life, the wild west, free for all.
And with that comes Dread, Anxiety, Anger, and Depression. You feel it right after you wake up, throughout the day, and will follow you in your dreams.
Each night I dream of freedom
And then I open my eyes
And I'm in the same familiar jail cell.
I take a few minutes to swallow my disappointment
and begin my morning push-ups.
Maybe tomorrow,
I'll wake up somewhere else.
I have not lost hope.
My morning routine is
I wake up and read the bible.
10 pushups. Read bible.
10 push. Read.
10. Read.
Repeat again and again.
You will only understand the Bible when you’re in jail. The words of God synchs deep in your mind. Jail puts you on Rock bottom where you experience the dark night of the soul.
and when you’re at your lowest point, you’re open to the greatest change.
You only appreciate the things you’ve taken for granted when there’s zero light.
Just seeing your loved one is pure happiness. Corny jokes are fucking funny now.
If you’ve never known the great sorrow, you can never know the great joy. Because the distance between joy and sorrow is where we measure happiness.
You’re literally in fucking heaven right now. Compared to all the wars, genocide, slavery that’s still ongoing in the world.
Bbeing able to wake up, drink coffee, and get to work is Valhalla.
I can workout, study, smoke shisha, and fuck bitches.
Absolute freedom.
What I’m trying to say is we are designed systematically.
Everything that you are is a gift from up above, everything has a purpose, everything plays a part in keeping you whole.
After I got out of that Jail cell, more shit hit the fan.
I was going off ruckus, case got worse, way fucking worse.
Nightmares every night, PTSD, I thought it was gonna be better, but it got worse.
Then I discovered boxing.
Dude, it was Love at first sight.
I trained every day for hours and hours. Sparring, Running 8km, Drenched in sweat.
Getting hit, and hitting back. It’s beautiful, it felt like home, like this is where I belong.
You feel miserable and powerful simultaneously, perfectly balanced as all things should be.
And I’m still Angry. Only different, Rather than being the passenger, I’m the Driver and Anger gives me a kind a fuel that never runs out plus acts as NOS boost.
Unlimited high energy unlocked. Bigger gas tank, I have. More power means I can get more shit done.
I found a sport so fucking Violent that it made me Calm.
Finally all my pent up intense emotions can be expressed and utilized for Self-Improvement.
A raging fire when aimed at the right direction gives life, like our Star.
Powerful, Dangerous, and Good.
The measure of a man is the calmness in his eyes when everything around him, and everything inside of him, is broken.How do you deal with intense negative emotions?
Feel it, let it flow, and let it go.
An emotion is a physical sensation in the body, locate where it is. For example, Fear feels like a knot in the gut, Anger is a tightness of the shoulder, neck, and face.
Feel into it, placing awareness on it. Letting it flow, acknowledging it’s presence.
Breath in deeply, and Let Go, exhaling slowly.Say in your mind,
“Emotions are a Source of unlimited motivation to resolve the situation harming me”.
Say it although you don’t believe in it yet. Hypocrisy is good, you just shove “good beliefs” in you mind until it opens up and accept it, till it yields and integrates the belief.If we’re both stuck in an island for 10 years, and everyday I tell you that the sky is Red in spite of the fact it’s blue. Before that decade is done, I guarantee, you’ll believe that the sky is Red.
The mind is like a sponge, it soaks up everything around it, whether it’s good or bad. Use it to your advantage.
Determine what you have to act on. What’s the best move on the chess board?
Then Act on it regardless of how you feel.
Do this whenever intense “negative” emotions come up.
Just once is enough per day. It’s absolutely fine if you let go for 3 minutes and kept that tightness of emotion for the rest of the day.
Baby steps are all you need, you start small, and grow slow. Piling up incremental WINS.
Focus on Consistency, rather than perfection.
Just do this whenever emotions pay a visit.
Give it a few years and I promise, you’ll be way ahead of 99.99% of people.
I said: what about my eyes?
He said: Keep them on the road.
I said: What about my passion?
He said: Keep it burning.
I said: What about my heart?
He said: Tell me what you hold inside it?
I said: Pain and sorrow.
He said: Stay with it. The wound is the place where the Light enters you.
Thanks for reading. If you’re a Hyper-Masculine Man who wants to build a Business and get out of wage slavery, hit me up on Instagram or X @oplanlikha. I do 1:1 coaching.
